I [19m] am so insecure that it is about to ruin my relationship with my girlfriend [18f]. What can I do for right now to help myself?

2021.12.09 01:30 paulh2003 I [19m] am so insecure that it is about to ruin my relationship with my girlfriend [18f]. What can I do for right now to help myself?

We were friends for over 3 years before she asked me out and we started dating. It's been three months now. We are obviously super close and love each other very much and I know this. But I, especially recently, have been getting super insecure. And taking it out on her. When she didn't say I love you for a somewhat extended period of time I questioned why and whether she had something more she wants to tell me. And eventually I let that out and got annoyed at her and then she was like I just didn't say it for a little bit I obviously still love you. There was a time last week where she made some comment about how if I was a girl I wouldn't have made a joke about thinking hair on her shower wall is gross. And I freaked out about how she must mean she wants me to be a girl. It's not like these come from absolutely nothing -- she is bi and has talked openly about how she wants to be able to explore sexually and stuff in college with girls. Which I very much appreciate her telling me. But it's going to kill me on the inside and make me more and more insecure. And just today she had to cancel plans to visit me (we are long distance so we see each other about once a month) and I said okay and was totally fine about it. For a while. She said she had too much work to do but because I'm insane and she wasn't doing it for every second of tonight I was like you haven't been doing work all night couldn't you have done it then been able to see me? I knew it was a bad thing to say. I still did it. Because in my mind I was like she's intentionally not doing her work just so that she can say she's too busy to see me. Which is insane. She obviously wasn't doing that. She is super super super busy and I know that. After every time she gets mad then I apologize then she's fine with it 15-30 minutes later. I know how much she hates cycles like that. I mean obviously, everyone does. My plan is to get therapy, she agrees with me. But that might take some time. Anyone have any methods to like calm down or something when feeling insecure? My only idea which I just did was to write down all the times I've irrationally freaked out, why I did it, and how the result of it was an argument because she wasn't actually mad at me and she still loved me and so on. So that I can look back at it when I feel insecure.

tl;dr: I get insecure all the time and take it out on my girlfriend even though it should be my problem to deal with. I need ways to help myself tone it down a bit.
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2021.12.09 01:30 beldin37 DM keeps flirting with my character and won't stop.

We've been taking turns DMing, and so this is their first time as DM. I made up a 16 CHA cleric of apollo, really having fun with it and taking entertainer background, singing in taverns etc. After a few sessions, we encounter a barbarian tribe and one of the women propositions my character. The DM is leaning heavy into this, and implying I'd be violating their hospitality if I refused. I rolled persuasion to get her to have sex with another party member, which ended up being pretty detailed (rolling for DEX and whatnot).
Since I (and the other player) was pretty uncomfortable with this, I sent a group text saying I'd rather not have explicit sex please, let's just keep things PG and fade to black.
Next session, we're walking into a group of people and the DM tells me that one of them is staring at my character. I'm wondering if they're hiding something (we're being sent to investigate some illegal activity). It turns out that she (the DM) has been rolling every time my character encounters an NPC to see if the NPC is "attracted" to them. Just my character.
So, of course, this NPC is hitting on my character and just won't stop, staring into my eyes, saying they want to worship me, shuddering when I touch their hand to read their palm ("you mean you DON'T want to have sex with them?").
I am incredibly uncomfortable (again) and send another group text a few days later where I basically ask her what's going on and why she's targeting my character. She responds that my character is "so pretty and flirty" that everyone can't help but be attracted to him. I tell her I don't want to game like that, specifically that it's making me uncomfortable, and ask her to stop.
Next session. She behaves herself. Crisis over, I think. Nope-- at the end of the session, two of the other players run into the previously mentioned NPC and the DM makes a point of mentioning that they sigh when they notice that my character isn't there.
I send a third message, basically telling her to drop it and that I'd already told her to stop. My question: what the fuck is going on? If it didn't mean no DnD for me AND the other players, I'd stop playing with her. She's never done this as a player, and of the other two players that have DMed, none of them have done this nor has she tried to do this with any of their NPCs. Personally, she's never been weird like that. I don't know what to do: right now I'm incredibly hypersensitive about the whole thing (like the sighing NPC probably wouldn't have bothered me 3 weeks ago but now it's just another reminder that she doesn't understand "no means no").
Advice? Validation?
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